How To Get Your Man to Pop the Question

Are you ready to be engaged, but not sure your man knows? Don’t worry, there are many gentle – and not so gentle – ways to coax your man into taking the plunge. Relationship counselor Glenn Goldberg says, “Start with subtle hints, gradually taking it to the next level and see how he responds.” Wondering what kind of hints? Well, here are some examples:

1. When you are on your computer at home, leave the web browser open to a page with the ring you imagine on your finger. This will give your man the idea that you are looking at engagement rings and will also show him an image of the ring he ought to choose when it’s time.
The strategy worked for Danielle, a woman from Long Island, N.Y. She said, “One day, I left our home computer on all day saved to a page of this gorgeous looking ring. Now my ring looks pretty close to one I had on my computer screen.”

2. When you both are watching TV, flip through the channels and stop at any wedding-related show. Comment on what you like and don’t like about the program. This will let your boyfriend know you are thinking about your own wedding and it may get him thinking.


3. If you have a social networking site, take a quiz on “what date will you get married” or “what will your wedding dress look like” and post it to your page. This will make it public that you have only one thing on your mind.
Angela, from Ocala, Fla., says that’s how she got her boyfriend to start talking about marriage. She said: “I took a ‘when will you get married’ quiz on Facebook and posted it on my page. Soon enough, I got lots of comments telling my boyfriend that he needs to hurry up. He starting talking to me about getting married the day after.’”

4. Comment on the wedding announcements in your local Sunday paper. This will give your boyfriend some food for thought.
“I actually cut out the wedding announcements so he would have to ask me what was so important that I had to cut out of the middle of an article he wanted to read. I simply replied, ‘Wedding announcements,’” says Caroline from Vera Beach, Calif.

5. While you are both waiting in line at the grocery, store pick up a copy of I DO (or any wedding magazine) and read it aloud. This tells your man that with all that’s going on in the pop culture world, you are interested in weddings.

6. Go to the mall and conveniently pass by a jewelry store and take your man in just to poke around. Believe it or not, he wants to know what you want and may be waiting to buy the ring because he doesn’t want to get the wrong one.

7. If there is a wedding or an engagement in your family, make it a big deal and offer to help out with the party or planning. You can show your boyfriend how exciting you can get over engagements and love stories.

These tips ought to help your boyfriend understand you are ready for marriage. If he is not ready, he’s not ready. The last thing you want to do is seem obsessive with the whole idea. And if he is ready, it may take him time to pick the perfect ring. Buying the ring is a big deal. This is a piece of rock you will be wearing for the rest of your life. If it is true love, it doesn’t matter when you set the date because you already know you will spend the rest of eternity with each other. Be patient and enjoy the love you have for other. Your day will come soon enough.